When it comes to the game of attraction, many men will start becoming needy, clingy, overwhelmed, etc. this means they’re giving up their OWN personal independence (during that time because it all that she sees and knows about him) and showing signs of dependency on a woman.

When your emotions start to take over you have to understand where they are coming from and where they fit into the reality of things. Many men fail because they just can’t control their thoughts and physiological response to a beautiful woman.

Just because you’re interested in her doesn’t mean she’s interested in you.

Women are world class body language readers (they were born to know what to look for and how to respond) and can see any sign of nervousness when you are around them.

Any uncontrollable emotional response you have with women upfront (or later on in the relationship when you only see her ‘wonderful’ side and ‘fall for her’) means that you are losing your own power, strength and independence (already confused and muddled because of growing up being hidden from the truth).

When this happens it means that she CANNOT be attracted to you. So all the nice guys out there that try to put their ‘best’ foot forward (and not really being their true self) are really failing and stepping on their own feet. They’re not being honest with themselves and their intentions.

Not to mention that many women today don’t want to be courted and feeling like they owe this guy a committed relationship, they want to be free and let things happen more naturally.

Many guys get so nervous and self-conscious around the women they desire that they don’t realize there’s nothing they could say to salvage it.

She already lost interest the second she saw him yet they’ll still try to learn pick-up lines in a desperate attempt to succeed to the point their devotion to it becomes unnatural.

All men were born with the inherent power to please women. And it’s all done on a natural level that’s really more important to her than money (except gold-diggers). And she has to be able to trust the man to BE a man.

Women are waiting for the ‘real men’ (who respect her and her body without saying a word) because there are so few left anymore.

Just have to get in touch with your natural power as a man to reach the natural part of (all) women.

This power is greater than your own independent ‘personality’ or your social character and it’s the power that matters when it comes to succeeding with women and giving women what they want.

Become a man who is ‘comfortable in his own skin’ and maintain that congruency and you’ll find that women will treat you differently and actually notice you.

Her interest means everything because she is the one who chooses you or not (as a response to your character or approach) but as a man you will lead the way.

The nice guy will ‘fail’ in attracting women because he’s not inspiring an instinctual or natural response in her to him.

Is it his fault for growing up in a forced reality which covers up his real power and effectiveness? No.

Does he have to take accountability for his actions and future? Yes. Understanding these things will allow him to move forward into a whole level of success that he has only dreamed of.

I like to see things this way:

You can’t go with a fat, ugly chick just as much as she can’t go with a man of low character.

Women today love sex just as much as men but they expect a guy they can trust first and if you’re showing signs of dependency or that you’re too interested in her and would change your ways to be with her, it ain’t going to work out.

The good news is that women will KNOW when you are that man they want.

To prevent failure, just become a man of high character across the 3 areas that matter (natural, independent and social) and you will have women wanting to be with you and not giving up the chance to meet you.

The whole game turns around at that point and other guys will continue to fail because they didn’t understand the big game of attraction and how to apply it themselves to be more naturally themselves.

Be what women want by truly becoming the man you were supposed to be instead of having to trick them into something and you’ll be able to attract women nonverbally.

All men have this power and potential despite their money or looks. It’s all about how she feels when she’s around you and that ALL comes down to your character and who you are.

So I recommend to prevent failure and have success with women and dating!

It’s a fact of life, men love beautiful women. No matter how certain groups like to slice that up and hold it against us, the fact remains…we love’em. It’s our nature.

As you can imagine I constantly get emails from the feminazi types who love to tell me how I should be living my life. They find it deplorable that I’m happy and have showed many men how to be happy too. They find it just appalling that a man is attracted to the beauty of a gorgeous Asian woman. They ask, why does it have to be an Asian woman? Well…why do these Femi Nazi’s always like bon-bons and not rice cakes? It’s just a matter of preference.

It Worked for Me
Whether it’s their beautiful figures, silk-like hair, exotic features or traditional values, Asian women rank at the top of the worlds most gorgeous women. Below are some of the most common myths that can hold you back from meeting the Asian woman of your dreams.

Meeting and Dating Asian Women Myth 1 – You’re too old for her. Age is a huge barrier to dating beautiful younger women in the western world, but it has very little significance in the eastern way of life. It’s known in the east that with age comes:
· Wisdom
· Knowledge
· Resources
· Experience

It’s nothing for a 45-year-old man to have a beautiful Asian girlfriend in her 20’s. I knew a Chinese woman who was 24 and had a 19-year-old boyfriend. Her parents were pissed something fierce. What possibly could a 19-year-old kid offer their daughter? They wanted her to be with a mature, older man who was more stable and could provide a future for her.

There are those in society that will always pass judgment on you (usually those miserable “married to the wrong partner” type), but hey, men love beautiful women. Being upset at a man who loves beautiful exotic Asian women is like getting mad at a bird for flying.

Meeting and Dating Asian Women Myth 2 - you’d like to meet a traditional Asian Woman for love and possible marriage, but you’ve been convinced you need to go the mail order bride route. Believe me, nothing could be further from the truth. Of course you can go that way if you like, but there’s really no need to as there are an incredible amount of Asian women right in your own backyard, you just need to know how to meet them.

With the tools available today, there’s no need of spending thousands of dollars to date or marry a woman you’ve never met unless you want to. Even if you decide to go to Asia, you really don’t need to spend thousands on an introduction service, if you know what you’re doing.

Meeting and Dating Asian Women Myth 3: I can’t go out with an Asian woman, I just don’t know any. The problem many men make is not seeing the big picture. They see a gorgeous woman and think the way to go is to run right up to her and hit on her. Although this can work, it’s a low percentage game. The best approach is to know how to meet them in a “you’re suppose to be their” circumstance. It’s a numbers game, and you want to play a high-percentage game at that.

Getting What You Deserve
So many men have soured on relationships. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “I’ll never get married again”. Of course this is normal if you’ve lived a miserable existence for so long. The truth is, everyone deserves to be happy. You must first learn to like yourself, and then all will fall into place.

I speak from experience when I relay to you the joy so many men have found when finding the Asian woman of their dreams. It’s a beautiful thing.

Many Asian women have been raised to fully understand the truly important things in life, not those things that TV commercials tell us are important. So many relationships fail due to the “always searching for the next best thing” syndrome, and never really being a good match in the first place

Think about what you really want from a woman, I think you may be surprised by the journey it may take you on.

Online Dating Tip: The Name Counts
Who would ever want to date a girl named Shywaixloubsky or something equally unpronounceable? Besides making other people think that a weird name reflects a weird personality, only a few people would risk trying to say your name and end up mispronouncing it altogether.

Hence, if you want to distinguish yourself from all other love-hunters, use a username or screen name that is easy to pronounce, charming to the ears and definitely eye-catching! If you were given the choice between dating online someone named Molly from someone named Adriana – who do you think would win?

And also, please refrain from using or giving out your real name. You never know if you’re already talking to your future online stalker so it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Online Dating Tip: The Personality Counts
How you hunt for your prey matters a lot, too. That means, the way you chat and what you chat about with the singles you meet online can improve or hurt your chances on catching your prey and that’s love, by the way, just in case you’ve forgotten what our objective is.

Hence, make sure that your personality shines all throughout the online dating process. Be funny, outgoing and charming! Be bold and daring! Do the things you wouldn’t ever think of doing in public but of course remember not to overdo it because going overboard will only turn other people off.

Online Dating Tip: The Timing Counts
Okay, yes, online dating is available 24/7 and in all days of the week. But as a hunter, you have to be smart and know on what time of the day and which day of the week is it most likely that your prey would turn up.

This means profiling and making your online dating goals clear cut. If you, for example, prefer to date a man who’s into the stock market and practically breathes and sleeps in Brook Brothers suits, when do you think a man like that is most likely have the time to chat? Secondly, where do you think he’s most likely to chat?

As a last note, always remember to use your mind when hunting down for love but use your heart when it’s time to catch it.

Online dating removes many of the negative unknowns while allowing you to meet some great people that you would never have met otherwise. It has become so popular over the last decade that today alone there is numerous reality TV shows dealing with the subject of online dating. After you have spent some time in front of your PC communicating with a person, you will want to meet him or her face to face. It is important to remember that even though you have spent quite a bit of time communicating and maybe even exchanging photos or videos with each other, you still don’t know the complete history of this person.

I will try to give you some tips on safe online dating:

1. First rule in safe online dating is to meet the person somewhere in a public place. Don’t let him to pick you up from home on the first date. If it’s possible try to arrange some kind of double date because you will be and feel safer having somebody with you that you trust.

2. If you don’t want to feel under any obligation pay half of the bill.

3. You found a person that you really like trough online dating and you finally meet him in a bar. Remember that alcohol can affect your judgment. So try not to have too many alcoholic drinks.

4. It’s safer to use your own transportation. This way you won’t have to depend on the person that you are dating.

5. Online dating is great and you can meet very interesting people. Always keep in mind though that what you see on your computer can be very different from the reality. For example if your online date said that he is a very religious man this doesn’t mean that you can trust him. As with any relationship it takes time before we really get to know our other half in the relationship.

6. One of the most important safety rules is to let someone else know where you are. Believe me when I tell you that this is safer. If something bad happens, there is at least someone that knows where to
look for you. It’s best for you to tell a friend to phone you and check on you at a pre- arranged time.

7. If you really like the person that you met through online dating it’s still good to stay alert. You never know what can happen.

In conclusion: Online dating is one of the greatest developments in our day and age. Just remember to be safe and responsible.

The next time your aunt tries to fix you up with somebody in her church group, tell her that you already have a boyfriend…in South Africa.

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Here is the first romantic proposal idea we have to offer: Rent out a limousine for the night and have the limo pick her up at work or at home. When she steps inside the limo, you’ll be waiting inside. Have the limo drive the two of you to an exquisite restaurant that you know she’ll love. Choose a special place, because you want her to remember this night forever. On your way home in the limo, pull out the ring and ask the big question.

A more theatrical proposal idea:  Arrange to meet her at a park that happens to be close to riding stables. Rent a horse at the stables in advance and rent a knight’s armor from a costume shop. On your way to the park, stop at the stable, put on the armor and ride the horse to her.  With a booming, dramatic voice, offer to be her knight in shining armor. Present the ring on a bent knee, and make your big proposal. To add extra dramatic flair, arrange for someone to play classical music in the background, perhaps something by Wagner or Holst.

More dramatic and romantic proposal ideas: Make a date to go to the movies and rent an elaborate ad for your proposal at your favorite theater. If possible, arrange it so that you can have a part of the theater all to yourselves. When the ad displays, pop out the ring and make your big proposal.  Or, if you are both sports fans, arrange to attend a game and have your proposal spelled out in big letters on the presentation box. Make sure you have the engagement ring handy, as the timing should be perfect.

Yet another romantic proposal idea:  Take her to a park, beach or other outside area for a romantic picnic.   Arrange to have an airplane “write” your proposal in the sky as you are dining. As soon as the message appears, whip out your ring and ask her to be yours!

If the previous proposal ideas aren’t exactly your style, try a more private, yet still romantic proposal idea: Cook an elaborate dinner for two, preferably one of her favorite meals. Set up an elegant candle light table and pour champagne for the both of you.  Instead of making the usual toast before drinking from your glass, surprise her with a marriage proposal!

With a little thought and planning, your romantic proposal is sure to make her feel special and create a memory you’ll both remember for a lifetime.